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self-esteem, self-directed anger, self-loathing hypnosis for the self-esteem-ally challenged how can you stand what you are? emails - emails - emails  Self-Esteem, Self-Directed Anger, Self-Loathing
Optimizing self to self strategies - how you handle self-talk and how you think about yourself and react to frustrations, mistakes, perceived inadequacies - is important to your general sense of happiness and to your ability to make optimal decisions, learn optimally from errors and setbacks and handle stress.
Correcting self-defeating attitudes is a matter of understanding the rationale and then really, really, deep down BELIEVING that self-defeatism is a absolute straight line road to defeat and depression and absolutely dumb. You have to understand and, again, BELIEVE, that not matter what the mistake or frustration, it is better to do nothing than to sabotage your self or treat yourself as an enemy. Hypnosis can help you get there -- especially hypnosis with a cognitive-behavioral focus like the Head-Cleaners hypnosis tapes and CDs. It can help you understand and change deep-seated, long held tendencies and attitudes.
OTHER RESOURCES"Self-Esteem and Self-Loathing and Hung Up and Can't Change" A much longer expansion of this article with a focus on understanding how self-loathing and negative self esteem can begin, how negative self esteem can be sustained and how to turn it around to have a positive self-esteem Self-Loathing and Having a Tough Time Finding a Therapist A brief email exchange about concerns about finding a therapist. Head-CleanersHypnosis Tapes and CDs Head-Cleaners hypnosis tapes and CDs are hypnotic word weavings, crafted and whisper-spoken in bass tones by a psychologist with 20+ years experience using hypnosis and specializing in working with people with enormous issues with anxiety and self-esteem. They are dual-voice, somewhat "spacey" experiences in hypnotic imageries and ideations that weave practical, logical cognitive-behavioral, cognitive-restructuring ideas with strategically formulated imageries in a permissive, indirect, Ericksonian format. They are designed to be individualized by the individual listener's mind and issues and are for large problems and small and all problems between. There is no trickery or heavy-handedness involved in Head-Cleaners reccordings. They rely on practical and logical ideas presented hypnotically. Head-Cleaners hypnosis tapes and CDs are somewhere between 35 and 45 minutes in length. You can expect to feel some degree of success within the first listening or two and there is a 30-day money-back guarantee. Listening to Head-Cleaners & Expectations ThereofYou listen to the tape(s) or CD(s) one time three or four times a week for a week or two and then as the urge strikes you thereafter. You listen via headphones - important because there is a slightly different recording that is heard in each challenge (refered to as "dual-voice" or "dual-induction" format). You listen laying down or in a big, soft chair that allows you to have your entire body supported. You listen when you believe you are likely to be awake for the full 40 minutes or so that the recording lasts -- but you don't expect to feel that you stayed awake the whole time or kept your mind focused on what was said in either channel. You can listen at bedtime -- which has the potential to help the thoughts conveyed "sink in" better if you go to sleep right afterwards, but if you actually do fall to sleep, you won't get the benefit from material presented after you go to sleep. These recordings are excellent assistance in getting to sleep as they are very relaxing to listen to. |
self to self partnering focuses on a fine tuning and optimization of one's attitude toward one's self. Hypnotic help for the "self-esteem-ally" challenged. This is the number one Head-Cleaners recording for anyone wanting to increase self-esteem and decrease any self-sabotaging, self-limiting tendencies. It is for anyone facing tough personal challenges and for individuals with goofed up self-esteem who may struggle with feelings of self loathing or tendencies to engage in self-directed anger. It focuses on hypnotically presented basic, practical rationales for accepting limitations and struggles and being supportive to yourself as you might be supportive of a friend. Guided imagery and metaphor woven to foster a more patient and practical relationship with one's self. Designed to foster practical, optimal self-esteem and strategies for handling problems, frustrations, mistakes and successes for overall maximum productivity and self-esteem and minimum counter-productive, self-defeating attitudes and behaviors.
healing Tree 2 focuses on fostering resiliency and faith in one's self. Focuses on recognizing that life can be sometimes very frightening, stressful, baffling, painful and seemingly unfair, but each time you go through fears and frights and tough times, it toughens you, strengthens you and gives you proof of your ability to survive your fears and tough times.
who and how you hope to be focuses on increasing the kind of thinking you would like be engaging in more often and focuses on decreasing thoughts, urges and inclinations that you find problematic to promote and solidify real and lasting changes toward being the person you would like to be – behaviorally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
allowing one's self to get past it is a wordweaving of metaphors and suggestions designed to assist the you to "get past" any bothersome feelings of guilt or other effects of a trauma or significant mishap (e.g., intrusive unwanted, unhelpful, unpleasant memories, thoughts or feelings of anxiousness, distress, hurt, loss, guilt or regret) that linger on without value. (It is not intended to relieve feelings of anxiousness or unwanted thoughts that actually may be providing a protective, realistic warning.)
now to how to soothe out angst focuses on soothing out angst -- persistent feelings of gloomy, mild-to-moderate depression and anxiousness) -- and establishing a sense of hopefulness, resiliency and faith in one's self and one's life working out. For a practical, logically based, enduring sense that life is manageable and meaningful even when things seem relentlessly stressful and challenging.
to be comfortably confident focuses on giving a boost to self-confidence via imageries and ideas that are woven to gently un-knot fears and stimulate real changes toward a much more positive, practical and realistic attitude of self-confidence without arrogance or silliness.
practical, optimal eating, too is designed to promote positive, practical, healthy eating behaviors when in anyone tending to eat under stress or engage in self-sabotage via food intake or restriction. Focuses on being health in eating habits, whether you need a push to eat less, more or just more appropriately.
nightmares to nice dreams focuses on fostering positive, empowering dreams -- day or night dreams -- that can provide an enriched positiveness during waking hours -- especially helpful if you remember your dreams much and more especially so if you tend to have anxious dreams or nightmares. (The recording is not focused on nightmares.)
relax...relax... focuses on relaxation and the development of relaxation skills that foster physical and emotional comfort and rejuvenation without reducing awareness and alertness. For those who have difficulty relaxing -- especially those who have a history of reacting to attempts to relax with anxiousness.
performance 2 focuses on a reduction of anxious, intrusive & bothersome thoughts and self-consciousness that interferes with performance of well-learned actions. Fosters being able to be "in the zone." For performance anxiety of all sorts, including male sexual performance anxiety, test anxiety and stage fright. This is not for a general, long term turning off of self-critical thinking. This is for being in the zone for a period of time while you perform or otherwise get your act together.
some thoughts to think to soften fears & loss & hurt & terror focuses on riding the mind of interfering fears of terrorism. For a soothing of fears of terrorism, death and loss. For acceptance of the fearful aspects of life and vulnerability that cannot be reduced to zero. For mindfulness of dangers and cautiousness with a calm and comfortable acceptance that there is no way to eliminate all danger and vulnerability in life. Intended to foster the ability to both accept and forget about dangers that nothing can be done about and to foster a faith that everything will be okay.
procrastinate tomorrow is for the "procrastinationally" challenged -- individuals who find themselves struggling with a tendency to procrastinate and the stresses and losses procrastination can cause. Hypnotically presented, compellingly logical suggestions that reduce procrastinating tendencies (side-tracking, forgetting and rationalizing). Fosters the listener's ability to "just do it" when faced with a project or task.
two voices to imagine focuses on establishing or increasing self-control over a problesome physical reaction, pain & nervous or bad habit (i.e., hair pulling, tearfulness, anger, enuresis, encopresis, sleeplessness, finger-nail biting, smoking, etc.)
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How can you stand being what you are
 Alien: Resurrection, 1997. Cole (with sadness): You must think this is pretty funny. Ripley: I'm finding a lot of things funny lately. I don't think they are. Cole: Why do you go on living? How can you stand being what you are? Ripley: Not much choice. Cole: At least there's part of you that's human. I'm just -- look at me -- I'm disgusting. Ripley (with soothing voice): Why did you come here? Cole: To kill you. Remember? ...I knew if they succeeded it would be the end of them. Ripley (with mild astonishment): Why do you care what happens to them? Cole: Because I'm programmed to. Ripley (smiling): You're programmed? To be an asshole? You're the new asshole model they're putting out? Cole: (smiles) Alien: Resurrection, 1997.
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Q I've been in therapy on and off for a very long time and am not making much headway. Most of the therapists I've seen think I've got a lot going for me. Usually they don't get why I'm there and somehow I just can't make them understand that I really need help. I walk away empty handed every time. I'm in my fifties and so very tired of trying to find just a little peace of mind; I just don't want to come to the end of my life without ever having been happy and content. I just want to wake up in the morning and know that its OK -- that I exist and I don't have to be sorry for being alive. I'm the black sheep in an already abusive family. I've spent most of my life trying to understand what I did wrong. If I knew what I did wrong and could fix it then life would be OK - but there's nothing. Years of discussion with family members and no one knows why -- maybe I look like somebody that should have been forgotten -- maybe I was a difficult birth -- maybe they resent me for not being born in the old country like my sibs -- who knows. My mother had 2 favorites. My father made her life an absolute living hell. He had 3 favorites. I'm nobody's favorite - I just don't fit in. After years of trying to talk to them and reason with them, I cut off my family. With the exception of two sisters who keep in touch, I've broken off all other ties. I've been a little less stressed since then. But its given me more time to look at myself. I've come to understand that my problem is pretty deep self-loathing and very low self-esteem. I was looking for a solution when I ran across your website. I am fascinated. I would like very much to try some of your tapes but I don't know where to start -- there's so much information on your website. Can you suggest a starting point for someone like me? Also, do you publish the subliminal scripts on your tapes - I would be a bit concerned about not knowing what the subliminal messages are? I would sure appreciate a little guidance. A I'm glad you found the site interesting. Guidance: First, just a bit of off the cuff general guidance: Life can be quite a complex struggle. I find it can be a great support in circumstances such as yours to adopt the supposition that life has a purpose -- that the struggles of this life teach us certain things that are important and intended for our strengthening and enlightening. When one factors in the amazing capacity of the mind to hallucinate, dream, distort and imagine it is very easy to argue that there is as exactly as much hard evidence of an afterlife and a Purpose of this life as there is hard evidence that this is all just probabilities and accidents. Assuming a purpose makes such hardships, challenges and endured hurts seem more hopeful -- and can actually, honestly, result in a great deal of strengthening and enlightening. It is interesting that pretty much everything in life can be seen as layered in opposites like an onion -- layered either good, then bad, then good, etc., or bad, then good, then bad, etc. Struggles can really mess with your head, wear you down and rob you of the fun and the joy that's available. But struggles can make you strong, smart, appreciative of life and it's joys and lessons. Some of the most painfully messed up people are messed up because life or someone else has made sure they had no struggles to speak of. Assuming that life is intended to be something more like boot camp than Disneyworld, and assuming that one's life might go on through eternity, makes all the intense struggles in this life seem much shorter in duration (at least once they're passed through). And if it turns out there is nothing after life, then once the lights go out, so does all hurt and struggle. And even if there is nothing after life, one gets the benefit of the mind game but will never have to feel any regret for believing in a fantasy. Also, it is helpful and practical to assume that there is no good reason to be impractical, negative or self loathing unless you really can think of a good reason to be. Using hypnosis recordings can be a very cool way to work on a more effective, practical attitude that lets you enjoy life a lot more. Counseling can be very helpful, too, but it sounds like you haven't yet found a counselor that has been able to feel what you feel. Try hypnosis recordings but don't give up the idea of perhaps finding a counselor, too. You will find that if you see ten counselors, no two are much alike. The recordings can be very helpful and very economical compared to a therapist, but a good therapist can be a very, very helpful helper, healer, support and mentor. So, guidance with respect to hypnosis recordings: You get one (unless you have a lot of ready cash and want to take advantage of the discount for multiple purchases) and see if you like it (e.g., within the first one or two listenings, you feel comfortable and interested, you feel hopeful about using it and you feel more positive and comfortable with your life and yourself). If you like it (nothing in life is one size fits all), you then get one, two, three or four more of the recordings focused on your issues and listen to them, one once a day or so -- maybe just as you go to bed so they're the last thing you put in your mind before sleep -- for a week or two. Then you listen to one once a week on average for the next several months. You'll find that you think about your life differently during the day and process it with a much more practical attitude. You will find that you work on yourself for anywhere from a few weeks to several months and then you sort of loose interest in the project. (Things go well and life doesn't push the idea of self improvement.) Then six months go by -- or 18 -- and you start thinking about self improvement or dealing with stress and you pull out your recordings and start at it again. As far as subliminal effects go, these happen because there are two separate recordings -- often saying the same thing at the same time but then frequently saying completely different things. There is nothing embedded or hidden. Focusing on one set of statements, the other is only partially listened to and listening is more unconscious than conscious. There is no trick intended and you are welcome to look at the transcript of any recording you might want to listen to. It helps with anxiousness about being "done to." If a person is anxious about the wording doing something unwanted, it takes much more listenings to get comfortable with the recording -- so it really helps to read the transcript first. Having read the transcript, you will find it takes at most one listening to relax with the listening. With respect to which for what guidance, Self To Self Partnering is probably the best to begin with as it addresses issues of self directed frustration, anger and etc. (which are common to survivors of high stress childhoods). Self loathing stuff leads to self sabotage -- which is just plain impractical and which can mess with any attempts at self improvement. Healing Tree 2 focuses optimizing an attitude of resiliency and hopefulness about dealing with the great struggles of life. Who and How You Hope To Be focuses on increasing positive thinking and decreasing negative thinking. You can look over the transcript here, same username and password. Of the other tapes and CDs helpful for self esteem issues, if you would like to see the transcript, let me know. I hope that answered your questions. Dr. Johnson |
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