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kids & youngsters & children & such performance anxiety & test anxiety unveiled - unraveled - revealed what performance anxiety and test anxiety are Performance anxiety is the term used for a situation where a person becomes anxious about performance quality to the extent that anxiety symptoms (hypervigilence, self-criticisms, upset, etc.) cause a reduction in performance quality. It is a self-fulfilling prophesy situation. Worry that performance will be poor causes performance to be poor. Performance anxiety can also, in some cases, cause a person to want to avoid thinking about the performance -- which in turn results in also wanting to avoid preparing for the performance. Test anxiety is when a person has performance anxiety about tests. This happens because our brain-body setup has mechanisms that have been in our makeup for the past 60,000 years which are set up to make a person quickly able to handle sudden danger from a lion, tiger, bear (oh, my) or similar. When these mechanisms activate it results in a) reduced complex thinking abilities, b) increased vision and hearing sensitivity and c) increased muscle tension -- resulting in decreased performance and, ironically, failure. Added to this, our modern minds add in negative self-talk and self-criticism and, for a little added spice, catastrophizing ("I'm going to fail and my life will be a disaster from then on!"). This is a terrible thing to happen when you want to be "in the zone" for a sports performance or a test. Test situations are possibly the routinely messed up by test-anxiety, performance-anxiety, because while needing to think about and remember things, that part of the brain is basically shut off. While it is necessary to focus on the test at hand, the eyes and ears are being hyper vigilent for any movements or sounds in the environment. Rather than facts and figures in the mind, all sorts of self-talk about failure fills the consciousness. These mechanisms are mediated and activated by very basic, very primative mechanisms in the part of the mind that is typically called "unconscious." No person can say to him- or herself, "Knock it off, chill out" and expect that to work because the warning signal is happening at an unconscious level of thinking. what makes it worse You can experiment a bit in this area, but here are some basics: 1) Tell your child it is very important that he or she NOT fail. Tell him or her that there will be terrible, dangerous consequences and/or loss of future support and love if he or she fails. 2) Yell when you talk about the performance or test. 3) Look down on the child -- tell him or her or suggest subtly that failure will mean the child's basic worth is diminished or erased. 4) Tell the child he or she is a looser, assuming he or she will try to prove you wrong. 5) Scream at your child's other parent that this is his or her fault. 6) Suggest that the child is a total loss. what can be done You can experiment a bit in this area, too, but here are some basics: 1) reward effort rather than results, 2) praise improvement rather than absolute ranking (e.g., a "D" on a test should be praised if "F" is the past performance), 3) avoid all the things listed above and anything else you discover that might make things worse. 4) Tell your child that failure is part of life and no big deal. 5) Assure your child that because failure is a part of success, failures can bring success later. 6) Assure your child that no matter what happens as far as his or her performance goes, you will always see him or her as your hero and as one of the best successes on the planet. 7) Reward and praise effort more than results. 8) Value improvement above perfection. 9) Counseling can help parents and child understand what the big fears and concerns are and what might be making them worse ("Oh, gosh, so I shouldn't ground him for not getting first place?"), 10) Use hypnosis -- either through a therapist or recording to try to turn down some of the concern that lingers at an unconscious level of thinking. "Successive approximations to a goal." This is a scientific term for rewarding little steps toward where you want to get to. It is very important to understand that praising improvement from an "F" to a "D" is, in the long run, more likely to get a child up to getting an "A" than is a strategy of withholding praise until total excellence happens. This is a well researched, widely accepted fact of life. Praising "D" behavior does not make a child complacent and happy with that "D" unless you or conditions are also making it very threatening to try for better. |
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incredible performance, too on CD only for now For children 8 to 13. Guided imagery and suggestions for test anxiety, performance anxiety and performance enhancement. Focuses on reducing self-consciousness, negativity, anxiousness, worry, stress, self-doubts and self-critical self-talk that can interfere with optimal test-taking and performance (sports performance, artistic performance, public speaking, acting, etc.). Fosters the listener's ability to get "into the zone." Also focuses on fostering reduced anxiousness and avoidance about -- and increased motivation for -- study and preparation. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases a tool to aid with panic and fear on CD and tape cassette For kids 11+ (and adults) who struggle with mild or severe anxiousness, panic attacks or fears and/or for kids or adults who simply want a means to calm themselves down when they want. Focuses on the development of a "trigger" -- a word, idea or image -- that, when thought of, triggers physical & emotional feelings of relaxation and a more positive state of mind. A nifty tool to have to be able to intentionally and rapidly soothe the experience, severity, duration & frequency of fears, panic & panic attacks. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases nightmares to nice dreams on CD and tape cassette For kids 8 plus (and adults). Positive, empowering thoughts and imageries to foster positive, empowering dreams. For increased self esteem and confidence in general and for empowering, powerful, positive dreams. For an end to any stress dreams or nightmares and a soothing of anxiousness about sleep and dreaming or nighttime vulnerabilities. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases self to self partnering  on CD and tape cassette For older adolescents Hypnotically presented, compellingly logical suggestions for establishing and fostering the best possible relationship with one's self. A hypnotic fine-tuning of how one reacts and relates with one's self when dealing with the challenges, struggles and frustrations of life. A hypnotic aid especially important to anyone working on self-improvement, stress management, struggle, loss, challenge or change. Especially important to the "self-esteem-ally" challenged who may at times struggle with feelings of self loathing or a tendency to engage in self-sabotage and/or self-directed anger. Focuses on practical attitudes and perspectives on dealing with one's self for maximum, optimal practical, positive productivity and patience. [This hypnosis recording is a very important, practical hypnotic self-help aid all by itself, AND, because it is focused on optimizing the listener's attitudes about self, change, fears, past failures and growth, listening to it in tandem with any other Head-Cleaners hypnosis recording (e.g., listening to Self one day, the other recording the next) will increase the effectiveness of the other recording.] more info & purchase |
test-taking talented, too on CD and tape cassette For adolescents (and adults) who struggle with anxieties about test-taking that result in study/preparation avoidance and diminished memory, distractibility and overall poor test performance. Fosters positive studying and test-taking attitudes, abilities, confidence and calm. Focuses on increased ability to focus attention, increased self-confidence, increased comfort and motivation, physical relaxation, optimal memory, reduced distractibility and reduced hyper-alertness to sounds and movements. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases to be comfortably confident on CD and tape cassette For kids 11 plus (and adults) whose self-confidence could use a small to huge boost. Intended to foster increased self-confidence via imageries and ideas that are woven to gently un-knot fears and stimulate real changes toward a much more positive, practical and realistic attitude of self-confidence without arrogance or silliness. The focus is on real, lasting change in confidence. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases two voices to imagine on CD and tape cassette For kids 8 plus (and adults). Designed to fosters increased self control, especially over target bad habits or problems like tearfulness, anger, worry, nervousness, bedwetting, encopresis, sleeplessness, finger-nail biting and/or anxiousness. listen to and read an excerpt more info & purchase discounts for multiple purchases
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 helping children with hypnosis tapes & CDshypnosis & children Hypnosis tapes and CDs can be fun and exciting for kids! Hypnosis tapes and CDs can be a fun, easy way to help kids work on problems while fostering feelings of comfort, hope and personal empowerment. Kids are generally more open to suggestions, less "locked in" to thinking patterns, more practiced in using imagination and generally more excited and delighted to try an adventure with hypnosis than adults. 
Hypnosis tapes and CDs can be a simple, effective means to help a child deal with a variety of issues, including problems with relaxation, anxiety, stress, self esteem, self control, enuresis, encopresis, eating disorders, headaches, pain, sleeplessness, performance, stress, anger and depression. Puchaser-parents are encouraged to visit the self-improvement page for ideas about helping children with their problems and/or write Dr. J. with any questions. Parents are encouraged also to listen to the recordings before their child -- or read through the trancescript of any recording (just email dr.j.) -- before having their child listen to it. Even if you're just considering a purchase and you want to see the trancescript, all you need do is email your request to drj@head-cleaners.com. Head-cleaners tapes and CDs can be tried and returned if they don't seem to help (see info on 30-day guarantee below). Really -- if you don't find a tape or CD helpful and worth the price, just send it back for a refund. |
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