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hindsight, mindsight - nothing is 20-20 an important awareness for an optimized life This is extremely important to understand if you tend to be hard on yourself when you believe you have made a mistake OR if you become anxious and stressed when you believe someone else has. People say that hindsight is 20-20.  But it isn't.  Nothing is. Brief facts & observations about the complexity of assessing situations in life. The expression, "Hindsight is 20-20," is intended to mean that once a choice is made and you see how things went, you can then see everything perfectly. ("20-20" is an expression that means one's eyesight is perfect.) The assumption is that when you find out the results of a choice or set of choices, that you then have information about how things would have turned out if you had chosen things differently. But this is not how things work. People say hindsight is 20-20 but the fact is, no matter how badly some decision works out, you never know if a different choice might not have worked out even worse. Further, there is no way of knowing how a particular situation is going to work out in the long run. There is no 20-20. So there is no justification for believing you are certain that you or anyone else made a mistake. Though it is true that one must try to do one's best, it is important in life to not be too high intensity in reacting to how things go. Learning from experience is actually best done with a moderate approach to things. You can take the edge of anger, anxiety and upset if you recognize that you cannot every really be certain that what is happening or what choices you've made -- or what choices others have made -- are good or are bad. There is just no way to know for certain what life is really about, or how anything is going to work out over time, or how things would have been different if they would have been different. We don't know how alternative choices would have worked out and we don't even know how things will out ten years later, twenty years later, thirty, fourty or fifty or more years later. You can help me provide articles and other supports to the visitors to this site. If you can, please support this site. other ways to support this site Actually, no sight is 20-20. Even present sight isn't 20-20. Nobody can see every aspect of anything, ever. Nobody knows if what happened today -- what is happening right NOW -- will work out to be apparently bad or apparently good. Nobody -- with the possible exception of God, should He turn out to be there when we drop dead and move on -- gets to be God-like in his or her ability to see right from wrong, good from bad and what would have been effective if what had been chosen hadn't been chosen. It's important to be as reasonable as possible about how you assess your actions, mistakes and success. There are a lot of mystery and questions in life. If you believe you made an error, feel badly awhile and a little. But be cautious about being harsh toward yourself or others when you believe errors have been made. And be especially careful about assuming and conveying to others that you can be certain that anyone has made a disasterous choice. There is just no way to be certain.

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