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fearing flying and dying and similar things An email inquiry about dealing with fears about dying and flying and being so high - and CDs that might help that someone might try. Query I’m interested in buying the hypnotherapy CD for fears associated with flying. My fears include fear of heights and turbulences, and worrying that I might die in an air plane crash - and fearing that I might go through a very fearful experience of being seriously injured and then killed. Do you think that your CD would work for me, and how often, and how long would I have to try it till I see any changes in my fear? Response In any situation of significant fears and distress, it is probably going to be best to consult a very good therapist/counselor. If you believe your concerns are not intense enough to warrant psychotherapy - or if there is some reason that makes counseling very difficult or impossible to obtain - then lesser measures may suffice. If they do not, though, work on finding a therapist, even if you need to travel, go into debt or deal with complications of some sort that may themselves become a focus of the therapy. Using Head-Cleaners hypnosis to end painful fears. With respect to hypnosis recordings, though - specifically, with respect to Head-Cleaners hypnosis recordings, there are several aids that can be very helpful in overcoming fears and issues of vulnerability. Head-Cleaners hypnosis recordings are carefully designed to provide gentle, empowering, hope-fostering solutions to fears that do not push, pull, force or trick. They are word-weavings devised to focus and foster the individual listener's particular strengths in compellingly logical ways that make it possible to achieve deeply meaningful resolutions to fears and other issues. With respect to what you might expect to need to do to resolve fears of flying as well as fears of dying or being hurt and in pain, you can expect to find yourself feeling more confident about flying and less fearful about being hurt after listening to Free to Fly just once or twice in the days before a flight. Because you have several specific and apparently intense interrelated fears, it seems likely that you would find best results in listening to Free to Fly several times over several weeks with listenings to two or three other Head-Cleaners hypnosis recordings interspersed between. (It is recommended that Head-Cleaners not be listened to more than one recording, one time per day.) The two or three other recordings are Performance 2, which is designed to foster the ability to deal with a situation in a sort of "in the zone," automatic (e.g., without a lot of thinking and self-critiquing) manner, Self To Self Partnering, which is designed to promote optimal self-supportive attitudes for the best possible handling of challenges, and, possibly, Healing Tree 2, which focuses on fostering the listener's realization that fears and past frightful experiences have resulted in unappreciated wisdom and resiliency. Getting around and past fears (the quicker fix). With a few listenings of Free to Fly, and perhaps the others suggested, you should be able to expect that you will undertake the task of packing and going to the airport without giving much thought to concerns about flying - then, on the day of your flight, you will ready yourself and go to the airport where you will deal with the lines and whatever while thinking of other things. You will get on the plane and have an eventless flight while reading, sleeping or movie watching. You may be a bit nervous now and then but you can expect to get to your destination without paying much attention to the trip at all. You will find yourself unpacking without having worried much at all. The hypnosis would basically make it possible to get you though your challenge without thinking about it much. Getting rid of fears (the larger and more thorough resolution). A more complete resolution to your situation would be to fully address your worries about vulnerability, fear and dying. Death is a part of life and may be either the end of all your worry and pain, all your thinking and experience, or it may be some sort of transitional moment wherein you will find your self continuing to think, experience and discover the answer to many questions that might have come up in the course of living this life we're in now. Working on accepting a sense of your self as being a part of a bigger reality - and accepting that the bigger reality is a part of who and what you are - would be one of the steps toward a deeper, more complete resolution of your fears about flying and dying. Accomplishing this kind of resolution would mean that you could expect to engage in airplane trips with complete awareness and understanding during each part of your trip - it would also mean that you would be changing your self image. You would not be someone getting around and past fears. Instead, you would be a person who had overcome them and no longer had to get around them or past them. You would be a person without those fears. What and where the big fears are and how hypnosis helps. Fears are regulated and decided upon in the deepest, most unconscious parts of our minds. This is why they seem so much a basic part of us - why we feel them as if they were at the deepest depth of our being. Hypnosis is a very powerful, yet very gentle and natural healing tool - one of the most ancient known to mankind. Hypnosis relaxes and calms and focuses our thinking on a gentle, basic communing with our deepest thoughts and thought processes. There, it can either soothe and comfort and suggest a gentle distraction that allows us to function without stimulating those deep concerns - which is what would be accomplished with a few listenings of the Free to Fly recording. Focusing on using Head-Cleaners hypnosis recordings to basically simply temporarily set aside fears - to just not think about them - would be the quickest solution and would result in the least radical changes in self-image. It would simply be a matter of soothing fears temporarily so that you can accomplish air travel. Each time you travel by air, you would want to listen to your CDs a few times during the week or two before your flight. After a few flights you would probably notice that you could forget about listening to your CDs, though every once in awhile it would seem like a good idea to listen before a flight. If you fly often, it might be a dozen or so flights before you felt that you really don't have those fears any more. It might seem like anxiousness of a general sort would return every few years at times of high stress - and you would want to re-listen a few times - but for the most part you would be done with those specific fears. The other approach to dealing with those deep, inner fears is to work on resolving them - actually changing them instead of simply lulling them to sleep for brief times so you can travel. This would be a matter of a much more complete resolution to your concerns - a matter of really addressing them. If you were to work on your fears in this manner, the resolution would mean that you could travel by air without having to get past fears because they would not exist. Fully resolving the fears you describe would be a matter of resolving your sense of vulnerability and your fear of pain and death. Though it seems like this would be an enormous undertaking, it would not really necessarily be. It might only be a matter of fostering a deep, inner sense of being designed - as all humans are designed - to want to avoid pain but built to automatically lose awareness of severe pain and to want to avoid death but built to automatically feel calmed and accepting when actually facing death. Of course pain hurts and there are all sorts of ways that one might be in pain for hours but people survive pain. Thier minds make sure they do - except in the most unusual and extreme situations. This is how we are built - all of us - though for some of us, the experience of the built in fears about pain and death can be overly intense because of small differences in chemistry and wiring. Our brains are all constructed in the same way, just as our bodies are - with legs in the same place, arms in the same place, nose between the eyes, etc, And with regard to the issue of death, this is an experience that takes only a little thinking and a heap of singlemindedness. It boils down to accepting the fact that when we die we will either a) find out we are not dead at all or b) we will simply slip to sleep like we have on thousands of nights, without dreaming and without ever feeling another fear, concern or hurt and without ever noticing we never woke up. If it turns out that we are dead and gone, we won't notice and certainly won't be concerned about anything. If, on the other hand, we do continue on, then we are at least done worrying about dying. If you were to more or less completely resolve your fears - rather than simply overcoming them for the brief periods of time it would take to accomplish air travel - you would be able to fly without any more concern than the average flier. You would arrive at your destination having a clearer and more complete recollection of your entire travel experience - which would not include fearfulness. And, rather than appreciating having conquered just your fear of flying you would feel that you had conquered your fear of death and your feelings of vulnerability. It would be more of a revamping of your self-image. Head-Cleaners hypnosis for resolution of fears and a new self image. To accomplish this larger resolution of your fears - your fears about vulnerability and death and your fears about pain - you would need to address not just your fear of flying but your fears about death and your sense of vulnerability. There are several Head-Cleaners hypnosis recordings that can aid in this endeavor. You would want to not only listen to the Free to Fly recording but also at least three or four other hypnosis recordings (i.e., three or four of the following: Self To Self Partnering, Healing Tree 2, Some Thoughts to Think to Soften Fears & Loss & Hurt & Terror, Now to How to Soothe Out Angst, Who and How You Hope to Be, Relax...Relax..., To Be Comfortably Confident, Two Voices to Imagine). It would also help to read some of the articles on the Head-Cleaners website as well as any other articles you might find on the internet or in self-help books. Basically, it is an undertaking of redefining yourself as someone who has lived long enough in fear - someone exchanging a self image as someone drowning, helpless, fearful for the self image of someone growing wise and strong and no longer willing to fear what makes no sense to fear. Either resolution and fears of success. Either resolution to your fears - the quicker resolution that would allow you to just jump past fears about flying in order to accomplish air travel and the more extensive resolution that would be a change in self image - would make airplane travel much, much easier. The quicker one would be easier, faster, more superficial, less of a struggle and would leave you feeling like there should be no challenge that you cannot deal with. The other, more extensive resolution, would take a bit more time but would be a larger change in who you see yourself as being - you would be someone undertaking a larger kind of self-development and growth, working to establish a self image of someone strong, effective and in control of your life. Either resolution brings with it a sense of accomplishment and a sense that you might be able to deal with any other fears that might come up in life. Because this might be a big change in who you see yourself as being and because you might be anxious about what might be expected of you or pushed on you by others, before you address your fears of flying it is practical to consider any anxiousness or concern that you may have about success. As strange or silly as it may sound to some people, it is very common to be anxious about success (see "Resistance to Change").
Fear of success can be a significant impediment to success in any enterprise - especially in challenges of self improvement. It is best not to undertake to work on fears of flying if you believe there is any possibility that you might feel a need to also sabotage your own efforts in order to avoid feeling a sense of accomplishment that might bring concerns about pressures to accomplish more and more after conquering fears about flying. Such concerns can cause a person to engage in self-improvement in a half-hearted, subltly self-sabotaging manner. Don't half-way work on your fears, challenging luck or some higher power to take charge and push you to success in spite of yourself. Don't half-way work on your challenges because of fears of success. If you are going to deal with your fears, do so as completely as you can. Preliminary work if there are fears of success. If you worry that you will put a lot of pressure on yourself after accomplishing dealing with your fears about flying, it is important to "get your head on straight" with regard to that issue first - before working on the flying fears. This may be a large or a small project - depending on how intense your concerns are. If your issues are huge, it may be important to enlist the aid of a good counselor. You may also find it very helpful to listen to Self To Self Partnering, which is designed to foster optimal functioning with respect to the demands and expectations one places on one's self. If you are not concerned about your own expectations of yourself if successful but concerned about the pressures of others if they see you as successful, then it may help to give yourself permission to not tell them you are successful. Simply resolve to overcome your fears about flying without revealing to others that it is anything less than a nightmare to fly. Let yourself keep your success to yourself for awhile until you feel comfortable telling people you have been successful. It is both interesting and important to recognize the many reasons there are for avoiding successes. (Again, as noted above, read "Resistance to Change"). It will help a lot to make sure you get out of your own way in dealing with fears and any other challenges in life. I imagine that's a lot more than you really wanted to know but I thought your question was worth a full and detailed answer. Let me know if I was confusing and/or if you have further questions. Life. It's quite an adventure. Dr. Johnson |
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