1. There are a lot of role models  to chose from.
2. Avoid becoming roadkill.  Watch out for yourself. Look both ways before you cross the street and think about things from more than one perspective before you open your mouth and let people know what is on your mind.
3. Did you know  
that as you pucker up to kiss your girlfriend or boyfriend you are about to put your lips on more germs than if you were about to pucker up and lay a wet one on your neighbor's dog?
that the best way to p#FF3300ict how someone will act in the future is to look at how they have acted in the past?
that you learn more from mistakes and unhappiness than from things going right?
that it is fine to forgive but dumb to forget?
that manipulation is not all bad -- that we can manipulate ourselves and others to get things to go better than they would have gone without the manipulation?
that people get angry about manipulation when they end up feeling tricked or ripped off -- not when they end up feeling really good (like if a boss manipulates a good employee to be even better by giving big raises)?
that you don't really get more freedom as you get older but if you learn from your mistakes and develop self-discipline you are usually given more responsibility and independence?
that freedom is more like what you have when you are tiny and can stick anything into your mouth that you want without being punished (restricted, maybe, but not usually punished) -- and that independence is when you can be your own babysitter, supervisor, parent or other authority figure?
that a person usually is granted more independence if they show parents and other authority figures that they respect and will be likely to agree with the parents' or authority figures' judgement?
that telling a parent or authority figure that he or she is full of crap, crazy, or dumb makes the parent or authority figure doubt that you can be trusted to do things the way they would want you to -- and that this results in being granted less independence?
that your awareness, understanding and attitudes may change as much in the next ten years as they have in the last ten years?
that guilt is naturally occuring mental process that provides a sort of rehearsal of the elements that caused big problems -- if you go over and over how you goofed something up you will be smarter the next time something similar comes up, but if you go over and over how you are stupid or hopeless, you will be convincing your own brain that it might as well take time off when similar situations come up (this is the opposite of getting smarter -- duh).
that some people lie to others, some people lie to themselves, and some people do both.
that the only way to tell who somebody really is -- who they really are inside, what they really think, how they will behave in a tough situation or when angry, how well they keep promises and how responsible they are -- is to hang out around them for several years.
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